Updated: Jan 11

Do you have an ambitious goal for 2021 that at the moment may feel daunting and maybe even impossible? Here’s a simple 3 step goal setting process to help you achieve your life changing goal.

Create Goals For Your Life

Most people don’t create goals for their life, which is interesting given that we typically plan for most of the endeavors we take on. We don’t go on a road trip without planning the route, deciding where to stay and what to pack. We recently finished renovating our bathroom which required major planning from beginning to end. I don’t believe anyone would start a major renovation without having a plan.

Write your goals down daily

Despite the power of goal setting only 3% of the population set goals for themselves and only 1% write their goals down. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at Dominican University of California, found that a person is 42% more likely to achieve their goals and dreams simply by writing them down on a daily basis.

I know how much we are all looking forward to saying goodbye to 2020 and welcoming in a new year and new possibilities. 🎉 Before this year ends though, I would like to tell you about my goal setting ritual and I invite you to join me in doing the same. It's a process to help you set smart goals and get the most from the new year. Not only will you learn a lot about yourself, but following these 3 simple steps will help you create long-term goals that won’t have you giving up when the going gets tough.

Step 1: Review Your Past Year

I sit down with a warm mug of tea (after this year though you may want to make it a stiff drink 🍸🥃), and I review the past year, what went well, what didn't and what I learned. I evaluate different aspects of my life including relationships, physical and emotional health, career/business and spiritual development. A word of caution, don't judge what didn't go well as failure. Instead, think of these as learning experiences with important nuggets of information. This is about learning and moving forward and that won't happen if you negatively judge yourself. Growth never happens when you beat yourself up.

Step 2: Feelings Before Goals

A few years ago I started to create what Danielle Laporte refers to as goals with soul. This involves creating outcome goals fueled by desire. How do you know when your life isn’t desired-driven? You might get that pit of the stomach feeling, or maybe a continuous unease or a low grade discontent. You may dread waking up to a new day since nothing excites you anymore. It’s a slow spiritual death.

Identify Your Core Desired Feelings

To find a full list of feelings, do a search using keywords like ‘feelings inventory’ or ‘universal needs’. Here are some examples of feelings you’ll have when your needs are being met: empowered, thankful, sympathetic, amazed, amused, curious, encouraged, optimistic.

Here are a few of the many possible feelings you may have when your needs are not being met: afraid, angry, worried, ashamed, edgy, overwhelmed, lethargic, hurt, and lonely.

Approaching goal setting this way is so much more effective because it is soul driven and not fact driven. This approach to goal setting makes so much more sense. All too often, people set goals to experience the materialistic end result. Really what we desire deep down is how that goal will help us feel better.

We set goals because we want to experience the feeling that we hope achieving that goal will bring. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

No one on their deathbed expresses regret for not having made more money, or living in a bigger house. People express deep regret for not loving more, not living more, not focusing on their health more. ❤️

Let’s pick goals that fuel our souls!

When people work towards goals that are driven by external factors there is a greater risk of burn out and not achieving that goal.

Get really clear on what feelings help you feel fulfilled. What makes you excited to get out of bed? What intrigues you? When do you lose track of time? (This doesn't include activities that numb you from feeling like TV, gaming, or social media. )

👉 For me, these feelings are: hope, love, challenge, creativity and service. What are they for you?

Step 3: Identify Your Goals

Goals With Soul

Once you have identified your core desired feelings, you can then start to think of how or what you can do to experience more of these feelings in your life. You'll be amazed how aligned your goals will be with your life when you start with your core desired feelings.

The Fewer Goals You Create The Better

Not setting goals is a common mistake, but setting too many goals is also a mistake. Our brain functions best with less distraction. After you’ve brainstormed a number of goals, prioritize the top 3. Be sure to ask yourself which goal YOU most want and not what your significant other, or doctor or boss wants. What goal most wakes your heart?

Your Feelings Fuel Your Life Changing Goals.

To achieve life changing goals, you need to understand what most motivates you. Motivation is fueled by desire. You are much more likely to stick with goals when they excite you.

One of my favorite quotes by Rabbi Harold Kushner is:

Step 4: Achieve Your Goals

Now that you’ve identified your goals, you’ll want to develop a system for tracking them. Create a tracking method that works for you. The simpler the better. The more convenient the better. I use a sheet that I print every week. Then I add my sheets to a binder. If you want to download the sheet I use, you can get it HERE.

I've been tracking my goals for decades. I have binders full of sheets and they're a goldmine of information. It's these records that keep me on track, motivated and moving in the right direction.

And tracking can do the same for you! ❤️


  • It gives intentional focus.

  • Health tracking gives you eyes.

  • It helps build your belief.

  • It eliminates overwhelm and confusion.

  • It becomes your roadmap and takes you to where you want to go.

  • Tracking provides the ability to evaluate.

  • You'll know exactly what creates success or failure.

  • Every success has opportunity for improvement and every failure has valuable nuggets of information for future action.

  • You start to believe that you can move forward.

  • This is a way to track what is consistently working

  • This method reduces failure.

  • It allows you to see what to do differently.

You'll want your goals to be specific to you. You can look at mine as an example, but chances are your health goals will be totally different than mine.

Understanding where to focus is important. If you aren't sure what your health priorities should be, then book a free consult with me and I can help guide you.

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